I remember my first New Years Eve after my divorce, it was filled with a mixture of joy and sadness. In a way it symbolizes new beginnings, new resolutions but also becomes for divorcees the first year they are no longer a “we” but an “I”. In can be pretty daunting to look at your new year calendar and see an entire blank year ahead of you, filled with endless unknowns. It is also as a freshly single person filled with countless opportunities, options and choices. I love New Year for three special reasons.
1.No time is as good as New Year to start new changes in your life, whether it is to set new fitness goals, new financial goals, dating goals, whatever feels right, the time for change begins January 1st. I think I love that change has a plan, a end post, work hard stick to whatever you want to achieve, and you will love the next reason even more.
2.Reflection, New Years Eve is a great time to reflect on where you are in life, in how far you have come, what you have achieved, sometimes after a divorce you can feel like the “divorce year” was wasted with lawyers and stress, but remind your self it wasn’t, your divorce is over, you survived that mind field of emotions and you have an entire blank year ahead unmarried. Pat your self on the back, divorce isn’t easy, but you made it through. If you are a naughty over achiever, and some how managed to achieve a lot more than surviving your divorce then, pat your back and high five yourself, because you deserve it.
3.The last reason is my favorite and if you are familiar with Dreamsrecycled.com you know I am worlds biggest believer in letting go. New Year is a great day to really let it go, once and for all forever. Whether it’s possessions, they don’t need to be sitting around reminding you constantly of the past, get rid of them, sell them, use that money to fund new dreams, preferable on Dreamsrecycled, but anywhere works.Next take a deep breathe, let go of the anger, the pain, sadness, maybe the feeling of unjust, unfair outcome. Just let it all go your divorce is over, your entire potentially happier life is ahead of you, focus on that, be in awe of the choices we have, the limitless options. Be grateful we have so many, and smile because you should.
Get dressed up, find somewhere to go, or someone to go out with you, toast in the New Year, while toasting out the past and you will not go far wrong in the year ahead, life is always what you make of it. Happiness is a choice and make every day of the next 365 new ones count, on your path to total happiness with your life and your newly divorced self!
Tiffany Beverlin
tiffany@dreamsrecycled.com
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