What is a divorce coach and how can they can help?

When the realization takes hold that your marriage has run its course it is an opportunity to move ahead, sort out your priorities and find happiness. Sounds good, but how do you do this when you feel stuck and have no idea where to start? I recommend having a conversation with a certified divorce coach.

A divorce coach is an objective, nonjudgemental skilled professional. A divorce coach is a sounding board and a thinking partner. We provide a safe environment to explore and work through feelings of anger, sadness, guilt, fear and frustration. Divorce is a stressful, confusing lengthy process and the coach goes along for the ride. Not as a lawyer or therapist but as a guide. We help navigate a complicated and often difficult process during a difficult time. The objective is to achieve the best possible outcome while saving time and money along the way.

When faced with divorce it is often hard to figure out who to talk to and where to turn for help. You don’t have to go through this alone. Family and friends may be supportive but are not skilled in this process and how to have these conversations and often have their own agenda that is not in your best interest. They may tell you it is for the best, hang in there and give it time, stay for the kids, take him/her for everything they got or something else along these lines. Well intentioned but often misguided.

Coaching facilitates the transition process and helps you to deal with the challenges of divorce and the issues and decisions that need to be made. We work together to identify your strengths, determine the priority areas to address and plan the action steps to take. We provide guidance and direction to help you find the appropriate resources and make the best decisions. The focus is on the present and learning how to approach and work through the complex issues you are facing. Coaching offers structure and provides accountability for you to follow through on the goals you want to work on. Realistic expectations are set and there is an emphasis on clear purposeful and effective communication. Learning to manage stress and find balance are also key components.

One other important and often overlooked area during divorce is self-care or doing the things to nurture yourself during and after your divorce. Good health practices become more critical during times of stress and divorce ranks near the top of the stressful event list. Eating well, exercising, getting enough sleep and taking time for yourself to relax and unwind are a few examples. The goal is not perfection but forward progress.

Tools and strategies are discussed to build new skills and develop valuable solutions. Your divorce coach will be there to celebrate your accomplishments and help you every step along the way.

I have also been there and know how to help people move on and create a new path.

Wishing you all the very best on your journey,

Bob Bilsker

Certified Divorce Coach
Divorced Father of two sons.
Masters degree in Counseling psychology.

(954) 536-4928



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