I have personally been on and off of dating websites for the last 4 years that I have been either divorced or separated.It’s been both a blessing and a curse having access to so many people, and them having access to you. I have to say I have encountered almost every thing you can imagine, hundreds of genitalia photos, sent unsolicited to you, sex requests, sex for money requests, marriage proposals, scary messages to participate in things, I basically needed to google to figure out what they where fetish wise. I have also actually met some really nice lovely people. Of course like every one have been deceived and manipulated through online dating, the married men, the scammers, the addicts, the mentally ill I think one of everything has contacted me over the years.You have to persevere and have faith, you can also try out our new open chat rooms at DreamsRecycled.com to connect with other divorces in a relaxed friendly atmosphere.

This is though my personal list of what makes me nuts about online dating profiles so if you are guilty, clean up your profile you will have better results.

1. No photos, bad photos and strange photos, in the days of camera phones there isn’t really an excuse for horrible or old photos, we want to see you now your face, your eyes take those shades off, we want you to keep your clothes on and we want photos to say something else about you, if you run add photo of you running if you travel show us your best holiday snaps, a photo says a thousand words make those words count!

2.Bio, make it relevant, funny , fun tell us about you, let us see a glimpse of your persona, your sense of humor your life style. We all think we are great you need to say bit more than this. My pet peeve is the long long lists of what you are looking for in a partner, we all want perfection, but trying to find any human that is merely a check list of traits, isn’t a realistic plan. It also drives away potential mates who will feel like they don’t check all of your boxes.It also gives the impression of being maintenance and not easy to please and that isn’t an attractive trait in anyone.

3.Being rude, you may have preferences but if you slam peoples body types, or appear rasist in your bio its a major turn off for most people, yes we all have a type but you don’t need to put other people down or insult them in the process.

4.Stop Lying about what you actually want, if you have read my other blogs you know this is major annoyance for me, dishonest isn’t ok not in that kind of forum, so lets say you want no strings attached sex, then you should say that in your bio, or you want casual open dating, or you are not emotionally capable of having a relationship, or you are a player By all means be whatever you want to be but attempt to do it on a platform of honesty.For every one person who wants a serious relationship there is one person who doesn’t so be true to what you want, either way you will find someone,but if you don’t lie at the beginning, you most certainly won’t get as much grief at the end when your untruths surface.

5.Don’t lie about your true identity, if you are married say you are married, if you have a partner say it, if you have addiction issue, whether it be sexual, alcohol, drugs, whatever disclose it because after dating for months if any of these falsehoods come to light you will never be trusted again. I am not sure why people just flat out lie about there real selves I assure you if someone vaguely likes you and you show them the true you, they will only like you more for showing you vulnerability.

6.Don’t use false age, height or weight, it’s a total waste of everyone’s time and effort, we are all busy people, and it’s hard enough to navigate anyway.Be who you are who ever you are meant to be with will like you for you.

7. Always show kindness, I don’t think everyone should have to reply to everyone girls get crazy amounts of messages we just can’y but if you do interact, we should all use the same social skills and kindness we use in real life, I have had men say insane things to me things they would never say in person but behind a keyboard they can say anything they want.Why be like this if you have nothing nice to say say nothing on or off these dating sites.

Dating should be fun, use some common sense, take everything with a pinch of salt, and let the people you meets actions not profiles or words show you who they really are.

Tiffany Beverlin

CEO DreamsRecycled.com

tiffany@dreamsrecycled.com