When facing divorce, whether before, during or after, mastering your psychology is critical. Most mindset gurus address thoughts, actions and behaviors. Albeit important aspects, this approach only deals with our conscious level. However, our sub-conscious, where deep seated beliefs reside, must be in alignment with our conscious awareness. If not, we will not achieve the results we desire and deserve.
Let’s discuss a more well-rounded view of supreme mindset.
1. Allow it: The art of allowing or receiving is a mindset most do not consider. This is a technique that sets an intention to be open to all the goodness and bounty that the universe has to offer you with the anticipation and expectation of a child. Can you tell the difference between how you feel when you have a flowing, open, allowing sense in the deepest core of you versus a sense of resistance and being closed off?
2. Believe it: Believe and trust that you will realize the vision for the new life you want to create. You cannot simply create a state of allowing, but you must add to it a faith and a belief that it will manifest. This may require acknowledging our old “tapes” of beliefs like not believing we’re good enough. What are some old beliefs you find challenging to give up? What would be a more positive, healthy belief to replace it with?
3. Think it: There are two kinds of thoughts. Disempowering thoughts and empowering thoughts. An example of a disempowering thought might be, “See, here’s another roadblock that’s getting in my way from achieving what I am striving for in my new life… I’m never going to get there”. An example of an empowering thought might be, “I am able to deal with the frustrations in my life, not allowing them to de-rail me.” What is the most common disempowering thought for you and how could you replace it with an empowering one? Your thought life must be congruent with your ability to allow and believe.
4. Say it: Proclaim or declare what you really want out of your business to yourself and to others who have earned the right to hear your vision. Dr. Brene’ Brown, author of “Daring Greatly” talks about developing a discernment of sharing. Not everybody in your circle has earned to right to hear you dreams. Have you shared your vision with the wrong person? As Dr. Phil would say, “How’s that working for you?”
5. Do it: Doing it means “walking the talk”. You can be in a supreme state of allowing, you can have positive, healthy beliefs, you can master your thought-life, you can be proclaiming the right visions with the right people, but if you are not “actioning” your vision, it will have little or no consequence. The Bible itself talks about belief (faith) without action (deeds) is dead.
Conversely, belief will always trump actions. So, if you feel like you’re frustrated by all the activities (action steps) in your new life, with little or no results, consider re-questioning your beliefs which operate on a sub-conscious level and may be running your show. Have you ever found yourself wondering why all your hard work isn’t producing the results you hoped?
Shan White
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