I am continuing my search for the truth about LOVE, it is a fascinating complex subject one on which barely any two people will agree. I have spoken to a wide array of friends and acquaintances on this subject over the last few weeks. Their answers on whether love at first sight exists have varied dramatically from “it is utter nonsense” to “yes it does, it happened to me”. I whole heartened believe that each person with each answer is telling the truth from their point of view and their opinions have been formed by personal experience. A good friend of mine confessed with being totally head of heels at first sight to her husband, which whether you believe it or not is a lovely romantic notion and as they have been married for 18 years I will say seems believable to me. A lot of men I spoke to admitted to numerous cases of lust at first sight but barely any loves. The romantic in me wants very much to believe it is a true phenomenon, who doesn’t wish to feel truly worthy of such instant adoration and love? I certainly do. What I think I like the thought of more though, is the idea that perhaps two people somehow are connected instantly, that they share similar senses of humor, the same intellectual outlook, that physically they complement each other. I also LOVE that feeling you get when you meet someone and you just instantly are familiar with them, like everything about them you have felt before or seen or heard before, that they gain instant access to your life, no work or effort required. This actually happened to me last week, I had for the most part been a non-believer in this love at first sight, men have said it to me but I am a skeptic. I have also been a person who can have very strong guards up to not let people get close to me especially not instantly. I think most divorcees feel like this we are all a little gun shy from our past relationships, which in a lot of ways is a good thing.
What I think sometimes you do find is that person who surprises you, someone genuine, honest, warm and kind who by some miracle seemed to know you better in the first 16 minutes you meet them than half the people you have known a lifetime. I would classify this feeling as a familiarity, a closeness reserved for usually people who you have known years. Someone you instantly click with bond with over everything, we have the same taste, like the same drinks, like the same places, doing the same things. You are both are in your own ways comforting to each other. I am interested to see if one day I find this feeling, and classify this as love at first sight.
The best part about it is the sheer lack of effort required when you do have this instant connection it all suddenly falls into place, and if nothing else it is a lovely thought that this x-factor does exist and should be sought out, I am so glad I never settled for mediocrity or a relationship of deceit but that I waited for something extraordinary. I am not sure if someone is predestined for one another or it’s a timing factor or what exactly makes this up. Someone suggested that it is souls who were together in past lives finally finding each other again, which is a wonderful thought whether true or not. So I can’t really actually give a definitive answer on whether love at first sight is foolish fantasy nonsense or the real deal but maybe we don’t need to know we just need to keep our eyes and hearts open and if it happens it happens and for that we should all be very grateful. To love and be loved in any normal healthy relationship no matter how it started can only truly be a blessing.
Tiffany Beverlin
CEO
tiffany@dreamsrecycled.com
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