Is There Really Happy Ever After?

As little girls we all dream about, and plan our wedding day in our minds. We marry off Barbie and Ken, and play pretend bride dress up with our girlfriends. Marriage is something most little girls hope to achieve one day…why? Why hope for something that more than 50% of the time fails?

How many people are still truly happily married? I mean genuine, 100% head over heels in love. I am willing to bet, not many. Most people just tend to throw away that old towel, and get themselves a nice fresh one when they feel it’s time. There is no effort anymore, no one tries. What happened to hard work and a little elbow grease? No, no, too complicated and exhausting, why bother when there are plenty of bright newer ones to pick from?

If you’re lucky enough to have your significant other try and make it work, again, it’s usually not for the “love” aspect. Maybe they are trying for the kids, maybe they don’t want the headache or costly expense of divorce; or maybe, they are sneaking in sweets to satisfy themselves on the side; so, no need to rock the boat at home.

It’s sad to realize that true love is so hard to find, and keep, these days. How do you know what it is? I think, it’s that “fuzzy” feeling of excitement that you get inside. You know, the feeling when you hear the key in the door turn, and you smile at the thought of who’s behind it. The thrill of a long car ride, because you know you are guaranteed quality talk time with that person. When you smile from ear to ear, because remembering that special someone causes you to do so. I believe all these things ring true love. But what if you are not complimented with compensation? What if, no matter how hard you try, your significant other is just “done” for whatever reason? You find yourself dumbfounded, sitting there listless, thinking,”what the fuck?” All you are left with is this roller coaster of emotions, with no answers or sense of closure.

As if this situation wasn’t bearable enough, now you begin to turn the questions onto yourself. You start to analyze your own emotions and perhaps ponder, was “I” really happy? Maybe this is happening for a reason. Maybe I was looking through tainted glasses, and avoiding all the blurred lines out of denial.

It has been said that once a woman’s heart is broken, it is almost impossible to repair. It’s like a delicate piece of china that has shattered into millions of tiny pieces. You can try to fix it, with endless hours of tedious hard work; but in the end, even if you do piece it back together, it is never the same, and never right. As adolescence, Barbie and Ken seem like the perfect couple, but by adulthood, we realize perfection doesn’t exist. Our once flawless pair, is now only an unobtainable fantasy.

Kristen Rossi

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