The VIBE: Beginnings are scary. Endings are sad. It’s what is in the middle that counts.
John: There is an old phrase I heard and I don’t remember where but it is somewhat true. Going back to old jobs, old girlfriends or old friends is a losing proposition. It focuses on not going backwards but always moving forward. I see what it means now. Maybe I didn’t before. Yesterday, I had a chance to catch up with someone who I hadn’t talked to in a LONG time – probably almost a year. We had a messy split. I knew we were going to talk at some point but I didn’t know when. Looking back at our conversation today, there is not much I could recall, except the past. They were a very significant part of my life at some point, but I don’t think they are now, and that is okay. Because I remember the lesson they taught me from the significant part where I needed to learn it and I will always take it with me wherever I go. Look, it is hard to let people go. I got it. But if you don’t, you can’t make room for the new, who are meant to continue to carry on with you. If you don’t have that space, you can never continue to grow. It sounds a lot like the quote about relationships from the movie Hope Floats – beginnings are scary, endings are sad, but I will always remember you as the part in the middle. And it saves you from constantly revisiting the melodrama.
Nicole, do you have a hard time letting people go?
Nicole: I’m a firm believer that people come into our lives to teach us a lesson. I think it’s important to keep your core friends, but also make room for the people that come and go in your life. Not everyone is meant to stay and if you want them to stay, you have to work hard at keeping them in your life. For the “friends” that come and go and come back into our lives, they are here to teach us our lesson because we haven’t learned it yet. They will continue to teach us our lesson until we have learned it. I’m not sure who is famous for saying, “Fool me once, shame on me; fool me twice, shame on you.” This is what I’m talking about here. I don’t have a hard time letting people go that need to be let go. Toxic people are bad. As 2019 approaches, let’s start weeding out the Drama, Negativity and Bad Vibes. John and I just want to roll with the positive vibes dream team kind of people.
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