Lets face it divorce for a lot of us is debilitating, the sense of loss and emotional turmoil is so great, that some days it’s as much as we can do to get out of bed and function in any way. I remember vividly being in a kind of permanently zombie phase. I did feed my children, I guess at some point I must have cleaned my house and done laundry, but it was all in a removed catatonic state.The thought of pulling myself together and doing anything productive was almost too much to comprehend.
If you have read my blogs, you will know I am not the poster child for handling divorce well, it was only after I began to take action that I turned my life around. What I want to share today is that this isn’t easy, but it is doable, it is achievable, and I promise that even if you do one thing a day productive towards your new dreams and goals a wonderful magical thing starts to happen. You start to heal, at first you may not realize it’s happening you may have bad day of non productivity here and there, but if you just keep moving in a forward motion one day, one step, at a time you will get to where you are going.
For me obviously it was starting dreamsrecycled.com it gave me a goal, a mission, career and ultimately a new beginning and new identity.If you set even small goals, small steps markers in your life that you can work towards and see that you have made progress from day to day, then this is a great way to heal. I remember lots of bench marks in my healing, the first day I didn’t cry, the first day I slept an entire night, the first day I felt good about what I was doing, the first call I had to do press for my company, the first date I met someone I actually kind of liked. List is long but I am sure you get the point, very small actions can one day make big results. What doesn’t make results in in action.If you allow your self too long to wallow in your self pity, your heart ache and worst of all your anger you won’t go anywhere, you won’t move towards your new dreams and goals, you won’t heal emotionally and you won’t be using this horrible thing as divorce to make a bigger brighter future for your self, you will be letting divorce beat you.
I think this is ultimately how I am trying in my own small way to revolutionize divorce, if I can cause anyone visiting our website or reading our blogs to understand that divorce can be a massive opportunity to actually improve your life and happiness level then we have done our job.If one person visits and feels better knowing they are not alone, if one person reads something and makes a better kinder choice in how to conduct themselves during their divorce, these little things all add up, small steps on the way to happiness. Of course divorce comes with a multitude of issues I often tell people divorce is really replacing one set of problems for another, but with divorce those problems lay within you to solve and if I can solve them I am confident that anyone out there can. So replace you inaction with action, set goals, make dreams, chase them down- work hard for them and celebrate along the way all life after divorces little triumphs until you reach your goal!
Tiffany Beverlin
tiffany@dreamsrecycled.com
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