How to Show Yourself Love on the Biggest Love Day of the Year

It’s been another year well spent loving yourself with or without a mate. Pat yourself on the back because loving yourself is often the hardest thing you could do. And fortunately for you, it’s one of the most vital steps to leading a happier and healthier life.

Valentine’s day has taken up a bad rap in the last years. It’s often rejected as the card maker’s holiday or single’s awareness day. These perspectives are both valid. But there is another way to approach the holiday.

This V-day treat your self to a big dose of self-love!

There’s no need to spend your Friday moping around. It’s a waste of energy thinking about how it could be with a man by your side. Or how it could have a more authentic feel. Or hating on the holiday in any form or fashion.

Take the holiday into your own hands and make it more than an outdated perspective. Take charge by choosing to spend the day solely focused on yourself. This is taking selfish to a whole new level; one more genuine, centered and loving.

Here are five ways to treat yourself on your special day:

1. Begin the day the way you love best. For me, that’s a slow start, a hot cup of tea or coffee, morning sunshine (when possible) and a deep, relaxing meditation. Slow starts don’t always work on a week day, but despite that minor inconvenience I still engage in all the other activities when possible, especially on a day like Valentine’s Day.

What makes you feel good in the morning? Are you a morning person? If so, wake up early and catch the sunrise. If you have to go to work and can’t sleep in, give yourself time before work to treat yourself to something nice; be it a smile in the mirror, a heartfelt I love you (to yourself), or a box of sweet treats (that you buy the night before ;).

2. During the day leave yourself little love notes wherever you go. No one needs to know they are from you. Unless you can’t help but share how much you love YOU! Stick a post it note on your computer screen, sharing one thing you genuinely love about yourself. Put one on your refrigerator, admiring your favorite part of your body. Or, leave a sweet reminder in your day planner of your strongest, most splendid attribute.

3. When you get off work, or at some point mid-afternoon, run to the store and pick out your favorite flowers. Flowers are gorgeous investments to have in the the home no matter the holiday. But since it is V-day, pick out your favorites, and put them front in center in your house. Enjoy them, deeply. If you’re not a flower person, buy a plant or some item that would give you deep pleasure to purchase. Then allow yourself to receive it as a gift.

4. How do you like to enjoy a good meal? Do you prefer a home cooked meal? Or would you rather someone else cook? Whichever you prefer, do it, but do it with love and a deep intention of giving yourself a gift, something to wholeheartedly receive. Take yourself out for a nice sushi dinner or try a brand new recipe. Better yet, find a girlfriend and go out to dinner with her. And still better, buy her dinner. Share the love with someone in your life. Giving is the best form of receiving.

5. Finally, if you could do one thing, anything that would bring you deep joy, pleasure, passion, [insert core desired feeling word here], what would it be? Something simple that you could do in a day to bring about any feeling you desire? Do that. Do what makes you happy. You deserve it. You truly do. Treat yourself.

Holidays aren’t meant to be chewed over and spit out for dead. They were created for a purpose, and often a purpose greater than we’ve allowed ourselves to see. Underneath the skewed perceptions lathered on over the years, there’s real meaning and value in these days. Let’s rediscover what Valentine’s day really means by giving it the meaning we desire. One of love not only for others but for ourselves.

Enjoy the holiday. And, especially, enjoy yourself.

Paula Jones

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